Seeking approval and acceptance....

I have noticed that we often are looking for the approval of others..  In work, at school, in our families.
From Dictionary.com here is what the definition is for Approval.


Approval
noun
1.
the act of approvingapprobation.
2.
formal permission or sanction.
3.
Philately. one of a group of selected stamps sent by a dealer to a prospective customer for examination and either purchase or return.
Idioms
4.
on approval, without obligation to buy unless satisfactory to the customer upon trial or examination and, otherwise, returnable:
We ship merchandise on approval.

When I think about seeking the approval of others, I know it is something that is built inside of every person, but I also believe there is a time you need to look in the mirror and be happy and accepting with what you see weather or not anyone else see it.  I know for myself, the approval I seek is the approval from the Lord.  I cannot spend a lifetime looking for the approval of others.  It is so very nice to get the approval from others but if you are not okay with yourself, will the approval of others help?

I do believe that we are always looking for the approval of our parents.  My observation is that there are those that are free with giving their praise and approval and others who are not.  For those of us that are looking always for the approval from a parent that is not able to give it is like closing your finger in the door over and over again.  I learned long ago, that I need to be looking for my approval from the Creator of the Universe.  I would love approval from my parents but I have learned that it is okay if I don't.

Maybe we are not at all looking for APPROVAL but rather ACCEPTANCE.  Now, that is something we all want...to be accepted for who we are.


Acceptance



 
noun
1.
the act of taking or receiving something offered.
2.
favorable reception; approval; favor.
3.
the act of assenting or believing:
acceptance of a theory.
4.
the fact or state of being accepted or acceptable.
5.
acceptation (def 1).
6.
Commerce.
  1. an engagement to pay an order, draft, or bill of exchange when it becomes due, as by the person on whom it is drawn.
  2. an order, draft, etc., that a person or bank has accepted as calling for payment and has 
  3. thus  promised to pay.

I live under the idea that if someone does not like me/approve of me, that really is not my problem.  Of course I would like everyone I meet to approve of me, but when they don't I try not to think too much about it and realize that I cannot let the negative thoughts effect me in a way that takes me off course of who I really am.

Approval is a good thing, Acceptance is a good thing.  But to let them be your motivator is not.  We all need to look in the mirror and be happy with who we are.

As a Christian woman, there was a time in my life I sought the Lord on His approval... I knew he accepted me but I was looking for His approval.  That was a life changing moment for me when I realized that I was exactly the way He created me and He was taking much joy in who I was and am.  To be recognized by the Creator of the Universe and know that He accepts me as I am, that was BIG for me.

I would hope that your too have found out who you are, why you were created, and know that your God takes great pleasure in you.  That would be my prayer for you.

Get out there, enjoy your life right were it is with or without supporters to approve and accept and GET on with IT.






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